Living well is the best revenge.ĭudzinski: There’s never a good excuse for getting drunk on a date, especially a first date.
Lash: Smile, have fun and make your date feel like they’re the most important person in the room. This may show your date that you are hung up on your ex. Do not hold a conversation with him or her. You run into your ex while on the date.ĭudzinski: You can either be nice by using a simple “hello” or a nod acknowledging him or her. Check your privacy settings, and don’t allow someone to tag you without your permission.Ĩ. Lash: You’re in charge of your social media. I’m not ready to post my dates on Facebook yet. Kort: Tell the person, “Thanks for tagging me. If it is bothersome to you, explain you would like to get informed before she/he posts anything involving you. Your date posts a photo of you both on social media that you do not want to be tagged in.ĭudzinski: Simply un-tag yourself in the photo. Owens: I would point out that they appear distracted and maybe we should reschedule when he/she can be fully present.ħ. Lash: Unless that date is a surgeon, the phone better be off the table. If the above is not in play and this is a first date, perhaps even a second, I would say, “I see you’re more interested in something else, and my time is valuable.” Then excuse yourself and leave. Even then, rescheduling the date would be advised. Your date won’t stop texting and/or checking his/her phone.ĭudzinski: The only time this is OK is if an emergency took place: a sick child is home, an ER physician is on call, or a suicidal client or patient calls. Kort: Or try, “You have a beautiful smile, and it’s covered by something on your teeth.”Ħ. Bonus: This shows you are paying attention to him or her. Your date has a piece of spinach in their teeth.ĭudzinski: Simply say, “Oops, you have a little piece caught in your teeth.” Your date will appreciate your friendly gesture. I really like you, and so I’m nervous as you can tell.”ģ. Humor: “There’s no use crying over spilled wine.” Apology: “I am so sorry I did that. Orbuch: You have two options here: Either use humor or be direct in your apology with “I” language. Lash: Apologize if your date was in the splash zone and offer to pay for the cleaning. Are they easily angered or joke with you about the situation? Note, I do not advise intentionally trying this to gain insight into your date’s character! This is also an opportunity for you to assess your date in how she/he responds. You spill the wine on the table and your date.ĭudzinski: Now this is a time to use humor, especially if you spill the wine on yourself! It gives your date the opportunity to see you are human and can laugh at simple mistakes. You accidentally call your date by your ex’s name.Ģ. With that said, here’s what you should do if …ġ. “Never pretend to be someone you’re not.” Whether the date is a success or disaster, the important thing is to always be yourself, Dudzinski says. To spare you from potential embarrassment during your Valentine’s Day date (or any date), we reached out to local relationship and etiquette experts, including Dudzinski Joe Kort, a sex and relationship therapist in Royal Oak Marci Lash, chief etiquette officer of the Contemporary Etiquette Institute in Ann Arbor Terri Orbuch, Oakland University sociology professor and author of “Finding Love Again: 6 Simple Steps to a New and Happy Relationship” and Nneka Owens, a Dearborn-based family and relationship therapist. “I remember - and want to forget - being so nervous on first dates that I forgot their names,” says “Detroit’s Love Guru” Greg Dudzinski, a relationship and sex specialist in Detroit. The waiter leaves the check - and no one reaches for it. You run into an ex - and his gorgeous new girlfriend. You spill your drink all over the table - and all over your date. We’ve all had those awkward date moments.
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